Happy F.A.B. Friday Beauties!
If you have read my previous blogs or follow my Instagram beauty blog FaithLoveBeauty, then you know I typically blog about the latest tips, tricks, and give reviews about beauty related topics or products. Today, I am switching gears for this blog to get transparent about an issue that no beauty product or advice can fix. Today, I am discussing self-love and the importance of loving yourself the way God loves you.
I was recently on a work assignment in Corpus Christi, Texas. I had never been to Corpus and didn't know much it, but I was reminded of young lady I met from there when I was 19 years old. We connected at a photoshoot, and I remember her being so beautiful and having such an infectious spirit. I also remember how incredibly inadequate I felt being in the same room with her, especially at a photoshoot. Here she was, this 5'7", light-skinned, curvy girl with gorgeous hair and a personality that matched her beauty. And in my mind, here I was, this 5'3", dark-skinned, skinny girl with envious eyes and an insecure personality to match my "lack" of beauty.
Colorism is an erroneous mentality associated with many races and ethnic backgrounds that essentially communicates lighter skinned complexions are more beautiful and desirable than darker skinned complexions.
I had never even considered the fact that my being dark-skinned was different than anyone else or "worse" than other complexions because most of everyone in my family was brown or dark skinned. It wasn't even something that was ever brought up in my household or amongst my family as a child. My first brush with colorism was in 4th grade, when a classmate told me once at recess that I was "so black that no one would be able to find me if the lights were off."
I remember that following weekend, I took a towel and scrubbed my face... HARD... thinking that if I scrubbed hard enough, I could take the top layer of my skin off and it would reveal lighter skin underneath. Instead, what was revealed was deeply scratched skin, blood, and scars from the damage I did to my skin and to my soul. From that point on I struggled with colorism and feeling inadequate in being darker skinned to some extent until, honestly, recent years.
While society and its presence of colorism played a large part in that, my lack of self-love played a larger part. Self-love should be a reflection of God's love, and God loves us so very deeply. We love because we were first loved by God. (1 John 4:19).
God loves us with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3), a steadfast love (Lamentations 3:22). It's a love that nothing can separate us from (Romans 8:35-39) and a love that lasts literally forever (Psalm 136). It was out of this love that we, being just as we are, were created so carefully and intricately.
Psalm 139: 13-16 reads this: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”
It is mind blowing to truly grasp that with this deep and everlasting love, the Lord created us just as we are with such precision and perfection. We must begin to love and see ourselves the way God loves and sees us. As I got older, I started to wonder if the Lord was disappointed in how I felt about myself because of what society was telling me, instead of what His word says to me.
I feel in my heart He was, and so was I.
I encourage you all today that no matter what your struggle is related to beauty might be, that you wipe clean the toxic thoughts of inadequacy, insecurity, and self-consciousness and replace them with the everlasting love of God. You are beautiful exactly as you are, girlfriend! Nothing on God's green earth has the power to separate you from the love of God, which is the same love He created you with. You are His perfection!Cheers to loving ourselves and seeing our
beauty the way God does!!
Have you struggled in some way with self-love? I would love to hear from you. Please share your story and how you overcame or are overcoming in the comments below in the various social media sites where this blog is posted.
Until next time, be immersed in His great love always.
Hayley Scott, A NEW Me Beauty Blog Contributor
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