Fabulous. Beautiful. Powerful.
Transparent. Giving. Humorous. Anointed.
These are just a few words to describe this power-house beauty, Pastor Felicia Dexter. When I moved to Dallas in 2012 I brought my dreams with me. Starting in a new city was scary. I missed my home church and family in Houston, TX where I was shown much favor. About a couple of years getting settled in Dallas, Pastor Felicia reached out to me about speaking at her Hats Off to Women Conference. I was in awe. She didn’t know me from a can of paint but she believed in me. It brings me to tears to think this powerful woman of God would see something in me that I didn’t quite understand within myself. That’s a true definition of a leader and a sister who provided opportunities for others through her God-given platform.
Pastor Felicia, is one of a kind. Her approach to ministry is all about embracing who God created you to be unapologetically. She has shared countless times when God called her into the ministry. It wasn’t to change her outward appearance, but to change her inward man and empower others to do the same. If you follow her social media platforms you would know this woman of God is all about family, building communities, and empowering women; and she’s super FABULOUS while doing it!
I’m so excited to feature Pastor Felicia Dexter on our A NEW ME Ministry Spotlight! Take a peek into her life as shares why she prefers not to be called “First Lady,” but instead a "Leader" who goes above and beyond the call of duty to empower others in her ministry while serving alongside her husband, Pastor Chris Dexter.
You will be blessed by it, I promise!
Who is Felicia Dexter?
I would describe myself as lively, vibrant, honest, and straightforward. Life is quite exciting for me as it has plenty of adventures and opportunities to offer, and I feel we should make good use of it. One thing I firmly believe is, one should strive for individual betterment. It gives me the zeal and incentive to work towards excellence. I am adventurous by nature and love to take on new challenges. I’m a wife of nearly 25 years, a mother of two (2) young adult gifted children, and the grandmother to my adorable grandson. I co-pastor alongside my husband at New Nation Church in North Garland. My role is Executive Pastor, where my primary focus is Operations and Administration.
How long have you and your husband been in ministry and please tell us about the vision of the ministry?
Chris and I have been serving as Pastors for 11 years in October. Our vision is simply to transform lives through deliverance.
Is there a difference between serving in the role of First Lady and Pastoring a church? If yes, please explain.
It’s funny you would ask this question. I recently revealed to our congregants that I preferred not to be called First Lady. They were shocked. In my opinion, there is a huge difference. I'm reminded of a short story when we initially launched our Dallas ministry in 2005. My great aunt voiced her concern about why her Pastor’s wife needed an office because she didn't know what she actually did in the church. My response was, I can't tell you her role; however, allow me to enlighten you on my role as it relates to our ministry.
I proceeded to explain to her that my focus is to maintain efficiency and make sure all aspects of the ministry are operating effectively. At that time, I took on the role as Project Manager for planting the church. In the past we haven’t seen Pastors’ wives or “First Ladies” so intricately involved in the operations of ministry. They were visible, but many didn't have a voice. Today I believe God is raising couples who are leading side-by-side.
Do you believe there is a stigma attached to the role of a First Lady or women Pastoring alongside their husbands? If yes, can you please share.
Unfortunately the stigma attached to the Pastor’s wife is real. In many churches we’re tolerated and not appreciated for the sacrifice and selfless commitment of sharing our husbands. We’re stereotyped by our exterior appearance and highly misunderstood.
What spiritual gifts do you possess and please share how your gifts has been effective to the body of Christ?
I believe spiritual gifts are endowments for service given by God to build others. Spiritual gifts are different from natural talents. Gifts are something that's not earned but given by the Holy Spirit through a spiritual infusion at the time you're reborn in Christ. We’re given these gifts for a purpose. You can have primary gifts and a cluster of ministry gifts. I operate in several spiritual gifts. Leadership and Administration are my primary gifts. Leadership allow me to motivate people to work together in unity toward a common goal. Administration enables me to lead by steering others to remain on task and bring organization.
Exhortation and Prophecy are a few of my ministry gifts. I have the ability to encourage, comfort and counsel. To bring wholeness and resolutions to situations. My gift affords me the opportunity to strengthen another and challenge those who are discouraged or wavering in their faith. I can come alongside them and
stimulate their faith.
Though you are your husband serve in ministry together, God has obviously birthed a vision in you as well.
Can you please share more about your ministry?
Authenticity is my ministry. I’m open and transparent about my life’s journey. As a mother, intercessor, and mid-wife, I’ve experience the pain of bringing forth life. Then the fear or lack of confidence in giving birth to your baby (vision). I’m passionate about teaching, nourishing, and empowering women and guiding youth.
I’m the founder and CEO of two flagship initiatives, which are Operation Sisterhood Inc. and Destination Transformation Community Development, Inc. Operation Sisterhood exists to intentionally promote harmony, hope, and healing among women. DT, Inc. was established to build better lives for our youth, encourage higher education, with college preparedness to strengthen future generations.
I’m the visionary of Hats Off to Women Empowerment Luncheon, an annual celebration of women, recognizing women who are making an impact in their communities. I’m the Editor-in-Chief of Harmony Magazine, a publication catered to women, created to provoke the reader to self-awareness to become their authentic self and walk in their destiny.
Because you are in ministry what do you believe are the most common challenges many First Ladies or people in ministry face going forth in their purpose?
Trust is a challenge for many first ladies/female pastors because many have a hidden agenda or an impure motive. Misunderstanding is a common obstacle. Many have an opinion that a woman in leadership is hungry for power or control. That may be true in some instances; however, most of the women I’m affiliated with are simply answering God’s call on their lives. Envy is prevalent because women focus more on what you have then what you have to offer.
Tell us what the experience was like seeing your ministry vision come into fruition.
A few of the emotions that I felt immediately were fulfillment, humility, victory, and the validation of Philippians 4:13 is definitely real. “I can do all things through Christ.”
Tell us about your Faith in God.
I live my life by Faith. Walking by faith requires a strong determination to follow God’s plan regardless of what life throws your way. My journey has been a tremendous blessing and rewarding. It’s also life altering and mind boggling at times.
When you have faith in God, it requires you to go to a place you don’t know but is revealed by God through your obedience. My faith requires much courage and strength to lawfully strive to live by the percepts and ordinances of God’s word. I’ve discovered you must be willing to be misunderstood and even abandoned when submitting your life to Christ.
What advice would you give to someone who has a ministry they want to birth but don’t know how to do it?
Make sure your motives are pure. It can’t be about popularity or money. Birthing a ministry is no different than a couple deciding to become parents. Ask yourself, are you ready for the responsibility, the commitment, and sleepless nights? Most importantly, will you have time to nurture your baby? A baby’s life starts at conception. It takes nine months to grow. Seek God for guidance and a strategy for your vision and mission and stay true to your objectives. It won’t hurt to seek mentorship from someone that will not just sharpen you but challenge you.
Share two of your favorite bible scriptures and why are they your favorites?
Proverbs 4:7 “In all thy getting get understanding.” This is one of my favorites because I don’t approach any assignment or task without fully understanding the objective.
Psalm 139:14 “I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” This scripture reminds me that God had a purpose for me when he created me. It gives me confidence in who God created me to be. My uniqueness was intentional to minster to a specific people. There’s no need for me to compare or try to measure up
to anyone else.
What do you like to do you in your leisure time?
I love spending time with my family. When I have time to watch television, Family Feud is my favorite past time. I like watching action movies.
Tell us about your upcoming event(s)?
I will begin hosting Mentoring Mondays on August 1, for those who are ready to discover their purpose and walk in their destiny. This will be an up close and personal forum to help with personal development, spiritual impartation, and break free of obstacles and various situations that keep most in bondage.
What else can we expect to see from you in 2016?
God is stretching me further than I imagined this year. One of my goals for 2016 is to complete and publish my first book on perseverance. However, I have to always be in alignment on what God’s plan is for my life.
Please tell everyone how you can be contacted to support your ministry by purchasing your products/services, book you for their upcoming events, or be part of your vision.
You can find me on the social media outlets @FeliciaDexter. My website is FeliciaDexter.com to connect with me. If you’re interested in Mentoring Mondays, send an email to email@example.com. You can donate to Destination Transformation, Inc., a 501(c)(3) organization by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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